Dating a really good friend
I remember praying, legitimately, when I was 16 that I would not have to marry one of my guy friends. So they thought, “Hey, let’s see if we can’t help each other overcome these issues with a grand dating experiment.” The rules of engagement (pun intended): they had to see each other for the 40 days, go on 3 dates a week, see a couples counselor, and go on one weekend trip. We can have an unexpected conversation, see you do something cool/brave/impressive, discover a different side of your personality and–BAM–we see you in an entirely new light. Men, I would argue, have much more inflexible folders.
I don’t know where it came from–I had either seen a movie, or heard some adult say that sometimes the right person has been ‘right in front of you the whole time,’–but I was terrified that I was gonna have to marry one of the guys I hung out with. Chances are, you’ve read it, or read about it somewhere online. They chronicled their experience, day by day, in a fascinating he said/she said format that, from the looks of their site, is being picked up for a movie (the final three days of the experiment have yet to be revealed.) In a recent article about the blog/experiment Timothy, was asked, “Can you fall in love with anyone if you spend forty days with them? Once in the friend zone, always in the friend zone.
If his last girlfriend texted him 4,000 times a day, you know not to text him 4,000 times a day and thus, only text him 3,999 times a day. One of the hardest parts about dating someone new is "oh my god, who even is this stranger?! He already knows some of your #issues and is fine with them.
If you're more of a "cute sushi place with twinkle lights in the windows" gal, he totally knows that and you will not end up at "dark sports bar with lots of screaming." Bless his heart.11.
A good friend is loyal, supportive, understanding and shares the same interests as you.
When you date strangers, it's so hard to know what their sense of humor is or what they find funny, so often you feel like a total weirdo when a joke doesn't land because he doesn't get it or it's not his thing. It's been like a year of the hottest foreplay of your life. No, you haven't met his family yet but you know what his sister does for work, and if he had a brother who was not that nice to him, and whether or not he had a nice or crappy childhood, all of which allowed you to understand him way more than a guy on Tinder you've spoken to for 60 minutes about sports.9.
With your guy though, you're already on the same page with that stuff and everything pretty much always lands (unless you make a series of bad puns that you knew were bad, but you just had to say them. At this point, you've had so many months of near hand-holds and "damn it, I want to kiss you but I won't" moments that the build-up is so much more~*intense*~ than it would've been if you'd waited three freaking dates to kiss. You can tell when he's stressed versus mad versus has a personality disorder.